when looking at any one person, there are dozens of facets which determine his/her personality. we are all unique and different. in this sense, people are comparable to colours. theres red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet. but in between there are hundreds upon hundreds of different shades. such is the same with men and women. we all have differences, whether minor or major, which makes us... us. but ive got a theory.
i believe that if you know someone very well, youd have no trouble describing them in one word. i mean, really, if a friend(like xin wei) asked you for your opinion on a close friend and to sum it up in a single word, you wouldnt actually have to think long before answering. because youve already subconsciously did it some time ago.
i know, i know. it would seem ludicrous to condense their whole being down into a single word. it would hardly do them justice. truly though, if you spend enough time with them it becomes crystal clear exactly what your opinion on said person is. their personality revolves around that one word! if i had to describe myself in a similar fashion... i would say i am Loyal. i pride myself on being intensely faithful to those around me who are excellent friends.
but this can sometimes backfire. you see, i KNOW im faithful, and can be trusted to help. because of this, i expect the SAME OF THE COMPANY I KEEP. ah. here i sound a bit fierce, a bit demanding. shouldnt i though? isnt that what true friendship means? i dont like to see it in terms of me investing time and effort into a friendship and expecting returns, because that seems shallow and immature. but i DO want to know that my friends appreciate me, and WILL stand up for me when the time comes. though perhaps not as intense as i would be in a given situation, because if everyone was as steadfastly loyal as i was, things would get quite heated quite often. but definitely on a level where i know they have my back, and i can lean on them for support unwavering.
take for instance if a group of friends i was with began back talking someone who i knew and counted among my companions. i would immediately and forcefully stop the conversation, insist that the topic be dropped because of ties to said friend and end with stating my concrete belief in my cohorts values. what i feel is an inappropriate response, bordering on downright betrayal, is to keep quiet and basically ignore people lambasting my close chum. that... can only be described as monstrous.
thats all i have on the subject for now.
some important events:
happy birthday kiat! the dinner buffet at mandarin oriental was magnificent and chatting with old friends was, as it always is, super(hello shi han, marcus koh). 21 at last.
fun and profitable chinese new year gambling at jeromes house on friday, where i lucked out and won 36 dollars during the last round when i volunteered to be banker and pulled a blackjack. lets do that again soon guys.
in closing, ill leave you all a quote which i think is very, very relevant to this post. and my feelings on friendship.
Jesus:
“Because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.”
