"so, what do you think?"
'i dunno. i guess i never really thought about it.'
"im asking you now though, what do you think?"
'...
i think that sometimes problems are better off not being dealt with. it sounds bad, i know. i mean its admirable to face and confront problems directly rather than brush them off, definitely more logical that way... but what if its not the SMARTEST thing to do? im sure i can think of instances where, if we brought something up that should have stayed locked away, we could end up doing a lot more hurt than good.'
"i cant agree, i always believed that if theres a problem, you need to deal with it directly instead of tip toeing around it. it just leaves too much up in the air. what about the future? will the same issue come up again? you will always be burdened with that knowledge, that insistent worrying everytime you come close to the source of the problem. and if the worst does come to pass, wont it just cut even deeper than before, leaving regret at harbouring a problem?"
'maybe...
but dont you think that this view is unrealistic, simply because such a depth of pessimism is currently unfounded? from what i can tell, this self destructive opinion on the world would make the problem just grow infinitely larger, without you even realising it. in that way, confrontation seems probable, even inevitable. no one can deal with that kind of negativity and come out unscathed. its unheard of.
no, that perspective just reflects your attitude, my friend, towards the settlement of disputes. no offence intended at all, but it seems to me that this aggression stems from the fact that you need to settle things on your terms. if the problem were to ever turn out different from how you pictured resolving it, you would be in an even more undesirable, dare i say dire, state than before. of course, thats entirely understandable, give your nature.
but heres my stand: certain problems were not meant to be highlighted and overcame. such problems include miscommunication between friends, the drifting apart of friends and the questionable antics of those in your wider social circle(meant to encompass friends of your friends of your friends). its clear that currently, economical and spiritual factors are not brought up by me, simply because i do not yet have the experience to speak of them in confidence.'
"that cant possibly be right. i hate it when people say oh its just a miscommunication no ones at fault. someone is ALWAYS at fault, and if two people are involved, one is MORE at fault than the other! there is no exception. blame on faulty telecommunications and grammar is childish and redundant. admitting your problem and apologising is so much more responsible, preferable to smoothing over a mistake without any remorse."
'if friends were friends, it would be acceptable for a miscommunication to happen. not too often though. i mean, im sure no one ever wants complications in relationships, and its not as if there was a dedicated, masterfully engineered plan to inconvenience people around you. if anything, miscommunication is an often honest to god mistake. who needs to bring up inconsistencies between messages, as long as the group is there and together. why waste your time being sullen when you should be enjoying yourself? let the matter rest and move on.'
"ill agree with you on the drifting apart of friends though. who wants to sour the mood at a gathering of old acquaintances? even if i were having a quiet drink with one or two of them after the rest have left, i would certainly not make a big issue out of it. after all, i do have newer friends who i can truly relate to in my life now. im not exactly dieing because we dont hang out with each other anymore.
the only reason i would bring it up is if i wanted to be petty and be accusatory. which is hardly a good reason at all."
'and how about that friend, you know, the one y-'
"i dont want to talk about it. that is NOT in contention right now."
'very well. and hows about my third point?'
"well. if a social circle is wide, there will certainly be problems. im gonna ignore the people who just scowl and talk nonsense in the background because their below me. but for the people who directly get in my way... those who place obstacles between me and my objective... ah. those people are in for a huge, unpleasant surprise. i can make life terrible, ABSOLUTELY TERRIBLE, for those who wrong me. eye for an eye. thats how they shall learn, and learn to never cross me again. all for the betterment of myself, and in extension, those who are closer to me in my social circle. those who matter to me."
'well put and well argued.
my friend, its clear that we are are at in impasse.'
"i would say so"
'to be honest, im glad this is so. if either one of us were to ever convince the other that he was entirely and unquestionably correct, we would be a terrible, imbalanced person.'
"we would certainly be indeed."
'same time next week then?'
"why not, not as if we are going anywhere."
'right. goodbye!'
"later."
lau:
'thats not the last room!!!"
