hello folks, time at last for another post! its been more than a week since my last one, and it wasnt very substantial to say the least, so ill try to make this article a bit more beefy. you know, something to digest and take up maybe ten to fifteen minutes of your time, but hopefully and more importantly, to stir things up! it gets boring around here.
so first off id like to state something pertaining to the people i hang out with the most. you know who you are. no one really wants to come out and say it, or perhaps may not even notice it with their busy schedules, but our group outings are becoming less and less regular. drastically so. i suppose it began sometime last year, when we either had army or university to handle. but as time wore on it became extremely obvious that we, as a group(i avoid the word clique because its so derogatory.) only go out and meet each other only when the occasion calls for it.
im saying that unless its someones birthday, or a celebratory holiday, we almost never meet up any more. chinese new year? check. chris and ians birthday? check. new years? check(as a matter of fact, theres only that one drinking session at crown with the guys since the year began that was spontaneous.). AND SOME PEOPLE DONT EVEN TRY TO SHOW UP FOR THESE RARE MEETINGS. man, your not fucking obliged to. its not your duty. its ten percent courtesy and ninety percent cause you fucking want to isnt it.
so what does it say when its obvious you CAN come, even for half an hour, and you dont?
you dont give a rats ass.
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im not gonna go on anymore, negativitys bad for my vibe.
so i was out with shun today to watch how to train a dragon(7.5/10, maybe even an 8.) and we talked about things like how we usually do. you know, catching up and discussing people in general. and we stumbled across the issue of relationships, and how ones life changes so humongously upon entering one. i wouldnt say the change is abrupt? because you definitely feel it coming as you progress towards romance. but the full swing of it knocks the breath outta you, especially if the relationship is MEANINGFUL and MOMENTOUS. it cant be passive nor precocious for you to feel the change. i can actually name a few people who i think fails to fulfill this prerequisite for a fulfilling bond.
but i wont. decency and all that.
moving on.
when two people get together, their paths intertwine. you begin living the others life. you more or less know what your partner is doing in the week ahead and you learn whats important to him or her. but more significantly, you now have a huge say in someone elses life. you are responsible for you AND your partner.
im not implying that you take charge and micro manage both of your daily decisions, but you must incorporate a separate lifestyle into your own. big goals are now shared between the two, and both must support and help each other to flourish. "ignorance is bliss" no longer applies to either one. a life changing choice cannot be made by YOURSELF any more, it must be shared with your partner. input and advice received is not from a friend, but someone who YOUR choice AFFECTS DIRECTLY. thus, its only fair they have a voice, and a large one, in the matter.
new school, new car, new apartment, new job. all these things once your own to pick are now going to DRASTICALLY hurt or help someone you care deeply about, and who cares deeply about you. goals which you pursue are now his or her goals as well, because they want to see you happy. sometimes even at their own cost. but thats what a relationships means, thats what loves about. sharing lives, and making it more wonderful with each others help.
well, thats it for today. i was gonna put up something written by jaesh, but he hasnt sent it to me yet. ill ask after him for it again soon, i plan to make it a centrepiece of discussion here along with something else im working on. till then, toodles.
Lau-
"bern, how the fuck did you hang from there?!?!"
